"When you love you fall under the waves, 
if you never fall you can never be saved— 
sometimes it’s grace, sometimes luck 
when a hand reaches out and you take it up." 
—Kathleen Dunbar, from my album The Storm…

There are essential acts and states of consciousness which we can identify and use to create a foundation to help us ground, grow, connect and thrive in both good times and times of stress (like during COVID-19). 

I’ve boiled down…

You matter. You have always mattered. Let the dust settle that contains all the reasons you thought you didn't matter. Ah!--there is your gem self! Welcome home, my love, welcome home. 

Here's a self-friendly compassionate perspective to help you shift:

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One of the first songs I ever wrote arrived in my heart and mind when I was on a wilderness quest in Death Valley many years ago. It’s called Send You Love. You can find the words below. I send…

Listen to me read this poem for you at this link: 
I Want To Tell You That You Are Okay 

I Want To Tell You
by Kathleen Dunbar

I want to tell you 
that you are okay 

I want to…

All your choices have brought you to this moment. You did the best you could. Thank the voices that criticize you by telling them “I know you’re only trying to help.” I mean it--really do this--thank them! That's an audacious…

Shaman’s Stone 
by Kathleen Dunbar 

At the heart of your experience is You.  
And though your Essence may not be weighed,  
is not palpable or seen,  
that Mystery makes you all the more Sacred.  
Seek for yourself, and love the…

Dogs Don't Care
by Kathleen Dunbar

Dogs as a whole  
don't care what they look like 
(except perhaps for poodles).  
Let yourself find that dignity 
and freedom 
that creatures know 
—let the sense of you being you 
in the moment …

There’s only one you! You and your uniqueness add something to this world that no one else can! You make the world a better place by being truly you! Trust your intuition, your passion, your expression! Whatever it is that…

Are You Looking for a Partner? How Well Do You Know Yourself?

Are you looking for a partner? One of the best things you can do to manifest a fulfilling relationship is to first know yourself deeply. We know ourselves…

By Kathleen Dunbar, MFT #39880 Certified Hakomi Therapist

We all have a True Self and when we live from this self we naturally engage in what interests us. However, if we’ve been hurt in some way as kids or young…

If You Fall 

By Kathleen Dunbar

Rest all the way down  
through the bottom of the pond 
and its gravel nibbled by the fishes.  
Go past to where 
the moist soil rests like leavened bread 
upon the crockery of the…

By Kathleen Dunbar, MFT #39880 Certified Hakomi Therapist

One of the most important transformational acts of healing happens as you: 

• Identify your "Wise Self" or "True Self." 
• Become conscious of your reactive selves, or voices, or “Parts”—those habitual patterns…