Kathleen Dunbar Psychotherapy

We need supportive, loving relationships throughout our lives to come into our full human potential emotionally, biologically, and spiritually. 

Our first relationships were when we were children. Even though our parents did the best they could for us, sometimes they weren’t able to give us enough loving, mirroring and support as kids. Because of that, we may not have been able to trust and like ourselves. Our adult relationships might be difficult and unsatisfying. Our lives as kids, and now, as adults can really be limited by: 

• Low self esteem 
• An inability to sustain relationships 
• Anger and volatile emotions 
• Numbness and inability to even know what or how we are feeling 
• Difficulty expressing ourselves 

The good news is that our brains (the hardwiring) and our “spirits” – (whatever you like to call our unique pithy individual essence) – these can come into wholeness through caring relationships. I can help you do this do this through visualization, practicing, growing your own good “radar” inside, learning how to calm yourself, and using our relationship as a safe base. Our healing palette includes Hakomi, Attachment work, trauma work, and Re-Creation of the Self work which helps you embody your Wise Self. Our therapy sessions are your place where you can learn how to: 

• Feel good about yourself 
• Recognize who in your life is safe to trust 
• Find new friends and deepen old friendships 
• Take in goodness from other people 
• Offer goodness back

Love After Love 

The time will come  
when, with elation  
you will greet yourself arriving  
at your own door, in your own mirror  
and each will smile at the other's welcome,  

and say, sit here. Eat.  
You will love again the stranger who was your self. 
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart  
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you  

all your life, whom you ignored  
for another, who knows you by heart.  
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,  

the photographs, the desperate notes,  
peel your own image from the mirror.  
Sit. Feast on your life.

-Derek Walcott